The Crucial Element of Time and Space for Easy Loving
My mom died in the first thirty minutes we were together that day.
Before we had so much time together that we were on each others nerves.
Telling that part of the story later, I realized how crucial that element of proximity and time was.
Have never considered severing our relationship.
Some seasons we talked every day.
Some every couple weeks.
I have liked her more and less at different times. And she me.
Never a question about our commitment to each other.
After a while together we’d get a little gritty.
I saw how this is true in other relationships.
My level of attention and pleasure wavers with time together.
My best friend and I go long periods without talking. Once, we didn’t talk for 5 years. Now we talk every few weeks. When we do we dive in for hours, breathing each other in. Tight. Connected. Then we separate for a while until it’s time to come back.
That’s the shape of our connection. It needs great space and closeness to maintain.
Separate from our commitment which remains like a solid line, impermeable across the multiverse.